Quite often problems in sex appear because of different tempos of partners. As mechanics of female sexual pleasure are more complicated men often climax earlier leaving a woman unsatisfied. Sexologists from family and sexual education center “Secrets” will tell how to help your lover to prolong sex.
Tell your partner that you prefer longer stimulation
Communication is basis of every interaction. If longevity of sex is a trouble for you, you should tell your partner about it.
Avoid an accusing tone and talk about yourself not about your partner. For example phrase: “You climax too fast” is not the best variant. Instead you should tell: “I would like our sex to be longer so I could enjoy you fully”. Salvation of the problem is its realisation in the beginning. You should make your lover understand that it would be pleasant for both of you if sex becomes longer and you won’t have to do anything more because the man will take care of sex longevity. Be sure, men know many tricks to postpone an orgasm.
You know it by yourself: if orgasm is close, it’s better to continue moving without changing tempo, penetration angle, speed because even little change can postpone climax. Men are not so sensitive for such changes, but it also has a large role for them. If during sex you feel or notice that your partner is close to orgasm (you can understand it if constrained breathing, more sharp movements or growing pressure in man’s body), you can try to slow down movements or change the pose.
Everything is quite clear about tempo, so let’s talk about poses. Some of them assist deeper penetration or more tight grip, others don’t give such strong stimulation and you can use them if you need to make sex longer. We can highlight such poses like “spoons” (a woman is oh her side, back to a man, man behind her), classical missionary one, and some variations of standing poses (woman with her leg on man’s thigh, woman with her back to a man, not bending her back).
Use special lubricant
Modern market of adult goods gives large assortment of lubricants, creams and gels helping to make sex longer. Longing effect is created by freezing components, like extract of pepper mint. Read a label attentively: it’s better to avoid lidocaine or components like this, preferring natural extracts and also you should understand the process itself. Some products should not be used as a lubricant. If you are afraid that freezing effect will delay your orgasm, you can put on your partner’s penis and put condom on.
Don’t try too hard or a condom can slip from penis. Some medications are released as creams, which should be rubbed in penis for full absorption and wait for some minutes. Such things often help to solve the problem as they influence not only on man’s body but also on his mind. He believes that the medication will make sex longer, becomes more self-confident, stops being afraid that everything can finish fast.
Don’t try to make slow him down
Instead of making sex longer suggest an alternative to your partner. According to quite clear reasons women are not always ready to tell their partners that they prefer longer stimulation. Regardless the fact that we support discussions, conversations and problem solution, the nuance with sex longevity can be solved with another variants. For example, after a man climaxes suggest him having a rest and then continuing again, because you’re still excited and want more.
Or suggest him making you cum with oral or manual fondling or, maybe, sex toys that can do it even better.
This way you won’t hurt your partner and get pleasure. Also such a model of sex interaction can tell much about your partner. If having got his piece of cake he refuses to give you pleasure, sleeps or avoid conversations about your orgasm, it says it all.